I am often deep in thought but there is nothing like a new year to really take time to reflect. I think when it comes to resolutions most people don’t reflect enough on the past and are only thinking about the future. Here are the questions I like to ponder and reflect on as the new year begins.
1. What was your happiest moment/event/occasion in 2015? This can be an eye opening question because you have to scroll through the whole year in search of your happiest memory and the answer may surprise you.
2. How can I fill 2016 with more memories like that one? What, when, where, why and who were you with during this happy time? What would your life be like if instead of having one moment like this in a year, your whole year was filled with these happiest memories? How can you replicate that feeling?
3. What challenged you in 2015 and what did you learn from it? I like to think of the hardest, difficult, and most stressful events of the year – well maybe I don’t really like to but it is a necessary evil to see how far you have come.
4. If 2015 was the title of a book or movie what would it be? Summing up your year in just a few words can say a lot! Now what do you want the title of 2016 to be? This will help set your intention for the new year
5. What did I scratch off my bucket list in 2015? Cherish those special memories and things you accomplished. When did you step out of your comfort zone and what was the result? What do you want to scratch off your list in 2016? If you don’t have a list, make one! Just start with 5 things you want to do before you die – you can let it grow from there…
6. If I died today, what would my legacy be? How would I be remembered? Are you living a purposeful life or are you stuck in the daily grind? What changes does this inspire you to make?
7. What are three things you need to do daily to improve your life? The secret to change lies in the daily routine. What are three small changes you could make that would create a significant difference if you did them every day?
8. What do you need to let go of in 2016? Whether it is a habit you want to get rid of or a person you need to forgive (even yourself), think about what you don’t want to bring into 2016 and what steps you need to take to truly let go.
9. How do you want to change your story? History is all about how you spin it. We tell ourselves these little stories about our past that don’t necessarily help us. It’s time to look at your past and ask yourself if that is the history you want to remember or if there is a different way to look at it. A different way to tell the story so that instead of a hurt that has broken you it becomes a strength that helped you grow. Instead of a heart break that makes you guarded it becomes the beautiful memories of what you experienced and open to the possibilities of having that with someone new.
10. What resolutions did you make for 2015 or any year in the past? What happened? Did you achieve them? Be proud and grateful for what you achieved! Look for the ones you didn’t achieve and reflect on what happened. What is your weakness? If you have specific goals you want to achieve in 2015 write your list down, for each item create a timeline, steps you need to take to achieve them, how your life will be different when you achieve them, and what it will be like if you don’t.
Some of these questions take more thought than others but it can really open your eyes and help you take a different look at life. This is the first week of a beautiful new year, make it a memorable one!