Top 5 Tips for Meditation

MEDITATION1Meditating is hard. It can seem like a daunting task and after repeated failure it is easy to just give up. But there is a reason they call it a practice! Just like a yoga practice, every single day is unique and you never know what will surface when you take the time to practice.

The most important things are actually the simplest.

  1. Create a set time in your schedule. At first it is best to do it first thing in the morning when you wake up. You may want to splash some water on your face and brush your teeth to make sure you don’t fall back to sleep!
  2. Designate a set duration. When beginning a practice it can be hard to set aside part of your day to sit still. You may want to start with three minutes on the first day and set an alarm. See how that feels and try adding an additional minute every other day so by the end of the week you are sitting for six minutes.
  3. Find a special space in your home. Make a space that is quiet and clean. No clutter or visual distractions. You can create an altar of things that are special or have significant meaning to you. Make sure you have the proper seating arrangement that you can be comfortable sitting upright.
  4. Designate a focal point. You may want to keep your eyes open and stare at a candle flame. Other people choose to close their eyes and focus on the third eye if they are intellectual or the heart center if they are emotional. Try different methods to see what feels best.
  5. Focus on your breathing. Slowly begin to inhale through the nose taking slow deep breaths in and out. At first you can count your breaths in an effort to keep the mind from wandering.

This is a starting point. What you do with it from here is up to you. There are many benefits to meditation as simple as starting your day by taking a few minutes for yourself to preventing heart disease. If you have time for facebook you have time to meditate! Stop making excuses and start your practice today.

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Ready or not…time flies

18ffe6fb523c860b448b1e7dbcd7ea67One month of 2016 is completely gone, did you make it count?

What have you accomplished?
What changed for you?
Did you establish any new habits?
Did you take steps towards any goals?

Time flies and without assessing things it is much more challenging to make progress. I generally try to use Sunday evenings as a time for reflection on the past week and what I want to accomplish in the upcoming week. I also think it is helpful to assess at the beginning of each month. It can bring a sense of gratitude for what you have accomplished and help you see where you need to improve or take action. After reflecting on the above questions for January, think about these questions for February.

What would you like to accomplish in February?
What positive or healthy habits would you like to establish?
What goals are you working towards?
What do you want to accomplish each week in February to help you realize your goals?

You could be contagious…

d1e39088b2ebf21ddf09b1bb9f48e72fI have a simple kindness challenge for you this week. Here it is:

Tell someone about an act of kindness you recently witnessed, to lift both of your spirits and to potentially inspire future acts of kindness.

I hope you don’t have to think too hard about an act of kindness you have witnessed. Here is one that I was lucky enough to experience first hand: A couple days after Christmas I was eating alone in a restaurant and my waitress told me my check had already been taken care of. I immediately blushed and asked why but she just smiled and walked away. I still have no idea what happened but weeks later am still thinking about the kind gesture.

We are surrounded by negativity so often that the good stories fall through the cracks. I challenge you to only post the good stories in your social media and if you haven’t seen any then go and seek them out. You can read or share stories here and look for inspiration and ideas. Negativity may be contagious but so is a smile.

Top 10 Questions to Ask Yourself As We Enter 2016

10492516_514757035322169_813478732558877688_nI am often deep in thought but there is nothing like a new year to really take time to reflect. I think when it comes to resolutions most people don’t reflect enough on the past and are only thinking about the future. Here are the questions I like to ponder and reflect on as the new year begins.

1. What was your happiest moment/event/occasion in 2015? This can be an eye opening question because you have to scroll through the whole year in search of your happiest memory and the answer may surprise you.

2. How can I fill 2016 with more memories like that one? What, when, where, why and who were you with during this happy time? What would your life be like if instead of having one moment like this in a year, your whole year was filled with these happiest memories? How can you replicate that feeling?

3. What challenged you in 2015 and what did you learn from it? I like to think of the hardest, difficult, and most stressful events of the year – well maybe I don’t really like to but it is a necessary evil to see how far you have come.

4. If 2015 was the title of a book or movie what would it be? Summing up your year in just a few words can say a lot! Now what do you want the title of 2016 to be? This will help set your intention for the new year

5. What did I scratch off my bucket list in 2015? Cherish those special memories and things you accomplished. When did you step out of your comfort zone and what was the result? What do you want to scratch off your list in 2016? If you don’t have a list, make one! Just start with 5 things you want to do before you die – you can let it grow from there…

6. If I died today, what would my legacy be? How would I be remembered? Are you living a purposeful life or are you stuck in the daily grind? What changes does this inspire you to make?

7. What are three things you need to do daily to improve your life? The secret to change lies in the daily routine. What are three small changes you could make that would create a significant difference if you did them every day?

8. What do you need to let go of in 2016? Whether it is a habit you want to get rid of or a person you need to forgive (even yourself), think about what you don’t want to bring into 2016 and what steps you need to take to truly let go.

9. How do you want to change your story? History is all about how you spin it. We tell ourselves these little stories about our past that don’t necessarily help us. It’s time to look at your past and ask yourself if that is the history you want to remember or if there is a different way to look at it. A different way to tell the story so that instead of a hurt that has broken you it becomes a strength that helped you grow. Instead of a heart break that makes you guarded it becomes the beautiful memories of what you experienced and open to the possibilities of having that with someone new.

10. What resolutions did you make for 2015 or any year in the past? What happened? Did you achieve them? Be proud and grateful for what you achieved! Look for the ones you didn’t achieve and reflect on what happened. What is your weakness? If you have specific goals you want to achieve in 2015 write your list down, for each item create a timeline, steps you need to take to achieve them, how your life will be different when you achieve them, and what it will be like if you don’t.

Some of these questions take more thought than others but it can really open your eyes and help you take a different look at life. This is the first week of a beautiful new year, make it a memorable one!